Andreas: I agree with Erich Fromm that the sexual revolution in late 1960s only made sexuality commercial while problems remain unsolved. Now we have the situation that men should know everything in this topic and women should not be interested in it. Otherwise men lose pride as the strong gender and women get called dirty for being too earthy. JANE: I don’t think there is any should to women’s lack of interest. They are very clearly not interested period. Sex is always a trade for love or for money because it is a key male need and male pleasure. JANE (cont): Women just go along with sex to keep the peace. Men only know what happens in porn. Some men see their role as the provider of pleasure. When in fact the reverse is true. Men obtain pleasure from women’s bodies. Andreas: This is like: know the truth and deal with it! JANE: That is correct. People seem to find it difficult to accept the reality because the fantasies are so appealing. But even men would not get aroused about being penetrated by a partner. JANE (cont): This explains why the only people who pay for sex are penetrating males. No one pays for the pleasure of being penetrated by an erect penis. Would you? Andreas: My answer is that I am not interested in it.But what you explain makes me understand the situation of women. JANE: Sociable heterosexual activity involves a man penetrating, thrusting & ejaculating into a woman’s mouth, anus or vagina. There is no gratification for the receiver (regardless of gender). Male homosexuals have a slight advantage with anal intercourse because of the prostate gland. JANE (cont): But otherwise the sexes are the same. The vagina is not involved in sexual response. Imagine your sex life if you were always the receiver. Then you can start to understand why women want respect, considerable & affection. A woman needs to love a man (or be paid) to provide this service. Men seem incapable of accepting this fact. Andreas: I have learned thisthrough books but I have to learn more. JANE: Women’s subordinated sexual role probably explains why sex is censored in very human society. Women are embarrassed and humiliated by sex, which involves a woman remaining in position until a man has ejaculated. JANE (cont): There is little pleasure only perhaps the emotional reward of giving if a man is respectful, considerate and loving. Otherwise, women offer sex out of a sense of duty, to incentivise a man to pay the bills or to keep a family together. Andreas: That means that mood is important. JANE: Absolutely. A man needs to please a woman outside the bedroom for her to be amenable to providing the opportunities for intercourse that he looks for inside the bedroom. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure