Trisha: I started masturbating before I can remember by rubbing in my underwear against stuffed animals or pillows in bed just because it felt good. I would put it between my legs face down, with my hands under it pushing the pillow up against my vulva in different directions until it hit just right. Trisha (cont): My legs would be more straight back as opposed to spread, and I’d move my hips down against the pillow and in circles until I came. My underwear was always on, I think it allowed for a little extra friction. That’s still a really good and quick way I can get myself off in just that same way. Trisha (cont): I almost always fantasize about sexual situations or watch porn. I almost never think about real people I’ve had sex with or past sexual situations. I fantasize about things that are conventionally malefocused sexual scenarios that I wouldn’t want to happen in a real sexual situation. I’ve realized over the years that I’m often identifying with the male in the situation doing the penetrating and thrusting. Trisha (cont): I am still with the person I first had intercourse with at 18. I didn’t orgasm with him the first couple times when I was eaten out (honestly I faked those first couple and knew it because I could orgasm from masturbation), but then I could get off on cunnilingus regularly. A partner using fingers on my clit, to this day, doesn’t work. Trisha (cont): At that time when I was first dating, I started feeling embarrassed about the way I masturbated. As if it was childish or the wrong way to do it. Because the little I’d seen or heard about female masturbation. It was never like that: always using fingers. So, I decided to change and use my fingers. Trisha (cont): It took a few tries of rubbing until I got overstimulated and quit, before it worked. I do it the same way now. I use my middle and index fingers on my right hand. I lay on my back with my legs spread a little, with one or both knees bent, with the flat of my foot pressed down to get some traction to press my pelvis in circles and up against my fingers. JANE: I do not believe it is possible to change instinctive masturbation techniques discovered at puberty (not in preadolescence). I also recognise some of my own conclusions in this story. Identifying with the male comes from my work. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure