JANE: Have you ever wondered what motivates women to strap on a dildo in order to penetrate a partner? What pleasure is there for the woman? Its like women can only enjoy giving pleasure? Samantha: why does pleasure have to be just physical? The intimacy of pegging is enough for some. Or maybe the dominance is the reward or the pleasing of your partner is the reward. Robin: I LOVE focusing on my partner and getting him off it pleases me, I feel powerful & turns me on! JANE: Im not against pleasuring men. But thats a lot of trouble to go for little reward. What are the longterm benefits? As a receiver of anal sex, I find that an erect penis is much more pleasurable than plastic dildo! Kristen: Maybe they dont want a penis. Maybe they want to be penetrated by their partner. Samantha: What about the women who WANT to focus on their male partners and actively enjoy that? Im not saying that women dont like stimulation to have orgasms. Im saying that people might like pegging for other reasons. JANE: Its the easiest thing in the world to give a man an orgasm. Not sure I see where your ego comes from. Since time began heterosexual activity has focused on pleasuring men If couples want to keep sex alive over the LONGER term they need to focus on female pleasuring. Lucy: Also one of the ways women orgasm IS through pegging. It can happen. Many times, pegging is the womans idea or suggestion. It doesnt have to be malefocused thing JANE: Even men cannot orgasm by putting on a dildo. Women need erotic turnons and the correct stimulation for orgasm just as men do! I would have thought that men would want women to obtain more pleasure from a real man and a real penis than from a sex toy??? Kristen: Again: FALSE. Sometimes a partner wont come; sometimes both may not! Still fun! Still sex! Correct stimulation means different things to different people. We need to offer both men & women safe spaces to talk about what sex means to them, not prescribe it to them. JANE: Sex research (and reliable sex information for those who can deal with the facts) needs to present the realistic options so that couples know what is truly possible. Some people have difficulty differentiating between activity that is likely to lead to orgasm and activity that is done for ego, money or rewards other than sexual ones. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all