JANE: Women are under extreme pressure from men to say that they orgasm and so some women imagine something. I found it incredible at first but I can find no explanation for the silence. Only men talk about female orgasm in any detail and most of that is pure fantasy! It’s all about women wanting to be attractive to men… Darin G. : I agree. I think society places pressure on the female to these questions in a way that probably isn’t the truth to support society and maybe men’s fantasy. I can say from a male standpoint. I would say I almost if not do enjoy masturbation more than sex because it does bring in fantasy and eroticism while I’m performing. Darin G. : I’d be curious as to what fantasies a woman has during masturbation to orgasm? Can this eroticism be replicated while I’m performing oral sex? I enjoy seeing the female receive pleasure to the fullest. I prefer to perform oral over intercourse because of the pleasure I can see a woman receiving. It’s all very interesting and intriguing. JANE: You are unusual in that you seem to be able to discuss this topic relatively dispassionately. Most men only see sex in terms of their own arousal and fantasies. Women are not aroused by the reality of genitals or sexual activity fantasy bridges the erotic gap. My fantasies involve identifying with the male and therefore cannot be used with a lover. JANE (cont): But most women are apparently not responsive enough to even experience this much more restricted (compared with men) enjoyment of eroticism. I find that most women are shocked and disgusted by any aspect of eroticism. So, they are certainly not responsive enough to experience orgasm. Darin G. : Well thank you for that compliment. I truly enjoy pleasing woman and seeing them receive pleasure. Even more so when I’m providing. I enjoy hearing what a female does to pleasure themselves. Your experiences are very welcome and interesting to me. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all