AzQcc:One of reasons women are not aroused is that they are shy and don’t want to express their feelings. Also they don’t trust their spouse. JANE:The evidence for arousal is physical at least for a man his erection. But arousal is fundamentally about a mental response to eroticism. JANE (cont):Male turnons are many & varied. But no one can name womens turnons because their responses are emotional. Women do not respond erotically with a lover. AzQcc:A womans mind is different as you already know. She might be thinking about many little things during physical interaction. AzQcc (cont):Physically she is with her partner but mentally she’s somewhere else. Ideal situation for her to be completely relaxed is somewhat nearly impossible. AzQcc (cont):Little things which bother her are: Is my baby asleep or not? When is my husband going to pay the utility bills? I have nothing to wear for that dinner tomorrow. AzQcc (cont):I have to clean the house at the weekend. Trivial things like this disturb her every time we have sex. Theres no ideal situation for her. JANE:Unfortunately, intercourse is very tedious for women. It’s difficult for a man to accept this. There is almost no physical sensation and zero mental arousal. JANE (cont):Intercourse is really just male masturbation with a partner looking on. Personally, I find it can help to take a proactive role rather than feel totally useless. JANE (cont): Sex is primarily a male pleasure. Women enjoy other things such as holidays, dinner, a movie. Affection is just as vital to women as sex is to men. But men cant accept this. Or they are just as incapable of affection as women are of orgasm. AzQcc:Men also do enjoy affectionate love and other things like outing, dinner, movie etc. Seems like your views are biased and based on your personal experiences. There are articles about women who are just as sexually active & have a high libido like men. JANE:I suggest you go elsewhere then. I provide the research findings & countless expert opinions that contradict your view. JANE (cont):If you know any WOMEN willing to discuss this topic, please ask them to come forward. Only men ever talk about this sexual pleasure they assume women experience. JANE (cont):Your own reallife experience shows that a woman is not as enthusiastic about sex as a man is. Yet you believe in erotic fiction JANE (cont):that people produce to make money out of your need to believe in your fantasies. This is the challenge of sex education: to provide facts not fiction! An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all