JANE: Please can you explain how women orgasm with a lover? Sharon: I usually recommend a book for women who want to learn how to connect to their own sexuality and be able to reach an orgasm themselves so that Sharon (cont): they can then direct their partners to help them reach an orgasm when they are having outercourse and intercourse. JANE: I always wonder why female sex experts refer me to a book or to a socalled female orgasm expert. JANE (cont): Why are women so reluctant to talk about their own experiences of orgasm, do you think? Why are they so embarrassed by sex? Sharon: The book has some of the exercises that I tell my patients to do as part of their exploration. Sharon (cont): Masturbation comes with a lot of social taboos and that explains why women are reluctant to talk about such matters. JANE: It is frustrating that experts refer to a book without providing any facts such as the sexual anatomy and the erotic turnons involved in anyone achieving orgasm. JANE (cont): I have been able to masturbate to orgasm all my adult life. But these techniques (clitoral stimulation and erotic fantasy) JANE (cont): do not work with a lover. I am asking how women orgasm with a lover when I have not found it to be possible. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure