Alisa: Jane, I’m writing to you because I have a problem and I’m not able to talk about it with any acquaintances or therapists because it makes me feel ashamed. I don’t feel well and I don’t know who else to turn to. I’ve never been with any man. I like women. Alisa (cont): But I’m virgin. At a certain point in my life, I began to be concerned about the issue of female sexuality. I know my body very well. I have read your articles and some other women’s. I understood that penetration produces almost no physical sensation. Alisa (cont): And yet, when a penetration scene appears on television and the actress begins to moan and move as if feeling a lot of pleasure, sometimes hysterically, I have a panic attack. Alisa (cont): I feel confused, as if I’m missing something or someone has tricked me. I can’t go about my day. I’m so upset, Jane. I’m writing this to you crying because I can’t take it anymore. I remember you saying Women feel little from intercourse But television tells me otherwise so I don’t understand. Alisa (cont): They are normal movies. They are not pornographic. I don’t understand why the actresses would lie. What do they get in return? Or is it the directors fault? Alisa (cont): Whatever it is, I need to know the truth from a real woman. I can’t go on like this, feeling bad about my sexuality, feeling that helplessness and uncertainty of needing a penis to satisfy someone. Alisa (cont): Thanks. (JANE: We know this is a man pretending to be a woman because female virgins dont watch porn on TV or elsewhere) JANE: Men assume that women feel the same physical and erotic stimulation from intercourse that men do. Some women (porno actresses just act the part) fake orgasm to provide men with the erotic turnon. It’s as simple as that. JANE (cont): Women make money from men’s sexual needs prostitution & pornography. In relationships, women feel obliged to fake to keep a man reassured that he is delivering female pleasure. This is sexual politics where men offer substantial rewards to women who please them in bed. JANE (cont): You will never get the truth from anyone. But I focus on science and the research findings. Men talk of eroticism. Women talk of emotional connection. If you want the ultimate proof, I suggest that you lose your virginity. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all