Irene:Your suggestion that sex is primarily a male pleasure is BS. JANE:If you have something explicit to say, please say it. If not, please go away. In over 20 years on the internet discussing sex and orgasm, I have found that most women refuse to comment. Irene:Fair enough. Women do experience sexual arousal in anticipation of a desired sexual encounter, contrary to your point. Irene (cont):The lingerie industry knows that too! That is why I disagreed with you, though I should have used a more elegant term than BS. JANE:What are you calling sexual arousal? Simply vaginal lubrication? This is just how the body prepares for intercourse. JANE (cont):I am asking women to explain how they achieve mental arousal. I am not asking for opinions. I am asking for facts & explanations for personal experiences. Irene:We know a different group of women. I dont want to discuss this on social media. Best of luck with your research. JANE:I find women always have some excuse for not discussing sexual topics. Only men talk of female orgasm in any explicit detail. They message me privately. JANE (cont):But its just male fantasies. I have concluded that women mistake emotional sensations for orgasm with a lover. Very few women masturbate to orgasm. Irene:Thats your experience anecdotal evidence. It appears you are projecting from a small sample (people known to you) relative to the subject universe. JANE:That is why I ask every day on social media but few women ever comment on sexual pleasure. They cant name any turnons, so how do they get aroused? Irene: OK, your milieu and mine are vastly different. Best of luck. JANE:You shouldnt be so arrogant if you know nothing about the topic. Women wear sexy underwear as a male turnon. It has nothing to do with how a woman gets aroused. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all