JANE: I contacted you a few weeks ago to ask about your recent newspaper article because I heard you on national TV challenging the fiction portrayed in porn. Yet you are promoting these orgasms that porno actresses pretend to have. As a woman who has never experienced them and never found another woman willing to discuss them, I am dismayed. JANE (cont): You suggest that women can orgasm through intercourse, cunnilingus & masturbation. For men, these activities all involve the same anatomy but for women you are talking about completely different anatomy. Don’t you see the contradiction? These supposed orgasms are rife in erotic fiction but there are no research findings to indicate that they are possible in reality. Tracey: Hi Jane. Keep waiting for the time to write a long, detailed reply but really busy so will write a short one in the meantime. I try to make it clear in all my articles that all orgasms require clitoral stimulation. If an intercourse orgasm does result (minus extra direct clitoral stimulation) then it’s often because of pressure on the inner clitoris or Tracey (cont): that the clitoris of the individual person is close to the entrance of the vagina and gets ‘pulled’ by thrusting. Orgasms through penetration alone are rare, though there is evidence that the front vaginal wall is highly responsive to stimulation as well. It is an area that needs more definitive research for sure! Totally understand your points & reasoning. Hope this explains a little of what I believe. JANE: What you are saying is equivalent to suggesting that men should stimulate their testicles because they are adjacent to their penis. Where is the research that proves that this stimulation causes orgasm? If female orgasm were common, then both women & their lovers would know how it occurs. JANE (cont): It is impossible to orgasm from stimulation you do not control. We need stimulation to continue up until orgasm and preferably not beyond. Orgasm is a oneoff sexual release that occurs at the end of activity that is focused on achieving it. I am just using common sense to explain why these porno orgasms you are promoting are simply not feasible. Tracey: I am not sure you understand my points. Sorry that we can’t agree but it’s been interesting talking about all this. JANE: I understand them perfectly because I have heard them before. But I am explaining why intercourse cannot give the receiver an orgasm regardless of the anatomy involved. The only sex information that sells involves telling men that their fantasies can come true. JANE (cont): But this causes untold frustration for so many couples worldwide. Sex educators are telling men that women orgasm from intercourse but still expecting men to understand consent. Sex education should differentiate between erotic fiction & reality. Tracey: Its more time Jane.I dont have the time for such in depth discussion.Am very sorry. JANE: You and millions of other women worldwide, Tracey! An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all