Janice: I am 55 years old. I lost my virginity when I was 14 , I then had a sexual relationship with the same male until I was 20. During those years I never had an orgasm. I met my first husband when I was 21 and married him the following year. I was then able to orgasm by him giving me oral sex. I did not start to masturbate until we had separated some 12 years later. I remarried at the age of 34 and this lasted for 12 years too. He was unadventurous, he thought oral sex was dirty, and I soon became adept at giving myself an orgasm when I was on top. Janice (cont): I always orgasm with a partner if he manual or orally stimulates me first. I am also able to bring myself to orgasm if I am on top. Whilst in this position, I have learnt to clench my vaginal muscles (like kegel exercises ) and then release them over and over. This way I will always orgasm If the penis is of a good size, by which I mean the girth. These orgasms are not as intense as when I use the rabbit. I am also able to orgasm quickly if I have a fairly full bladder. Janice (cont): I find it very sexually enjoyable to masturbate using a rabbit vibrator. I have used one for 5 years. I probably do this once or twice a week. To masturbate this way, gives me such an intense orgasm, much better than what any man has ever done with his mouth or his fingers. Janice (cont): When I am not in a relationship, I have viewed lesbian porn and I use my rabbit to orgasm. Socially or sexually I am not attracted to women, though not sure how the viewing of the lesbian porn came about. I am attracted to tall, wellbuilt successful men. I am never attracted to nor would I ever have sex with men who are short, who are thin or who do not have a very good job. Janice (cont): I do not use fantasy to masturbate, though when in a relationship I like a man to talk dirty. I find it far easy to orgasm if the sex is rough with a man. I usually masturbate once or twice a week, I try not to think about it, otherwise I would masturbate every evening before bed. Jane: You dont explain what stimulation you use for orgasm and whether this differs between sex and masturbation. I am also unclear how you get mentally turned on. Do you achieve orgasm in a similar way every time (same kind of stimulation and mental turnons)? If in different ways, why do you think this is? Janice: Im not sure if I can Jane. I think about sex all the time, it never goes away. With regards to stimulation with a man, I guess first of all its his smell. I need that smell and then I quickly become sexually aroused if the smell of his aftershave is strong, then eye contact, his demeanour all mixed together with what hes saying to me. He would then touch me with his fingers or perform oral sex on me, which would result in orgasm. Janice (cont): Sometimes I can just be sitting on the sofa and I will think about using the vibrator when I go to bed. I can feel my vagina start to throb or pulsate and my nipples become erect. There has been no stimulant apart from me thinking what I’m going to do to myself when I go to bed. Janice (cont): Orgasm is always more intense using the rabbit vibrator. I believe this is because I constantly stimulate my clitoris with the rabbit ears. When the orgasm starts the vibrator is inside me, which allows my vaginal wall to contract around the vibrator. Janice (cont): When I experience orgasm manually or orally with a man, its not as intense, because my clitoris is not being constantly stimulated throughout my orgasm. Plus his penis is not inside me, so my vaginal contractions have nothing to grip. Jane: Thanks Janice. Your orgasm story is full of contradictions. I suggest you make the most of your experiences given you are enjoying yourself! An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all