Emma L : I love your work! I consider myself to be hypersexual. I am always turned on. By anything. I either need to relieve myself or have sex immediately. I have sex about 5 times a week and have to masturbate at least 6/7 times a week. Is that too much? JANE: Thanks Emma thats very kind of you! I think you are mistaking emotional and sensual feelings for orgasm. Orgasm is very specific and involves erotic turnons. What you are describing is not orgasm. But, of course, you can enjoy sex without orgasm. Emma L : I understand the difference between emotional/sensual and the physical action of an orgasm. I masturbate until I climax but do not always orgasm through sex (I usually come through oral sex). I have been this way since I was about 9. If I see a man I like or a pretty woman, I think about having sex with them. I feel physical arousal in my vagina. I then masturbate until I climax, its the only way to relieve it. JANE: Women are not aroused by nudity, genitals or the prospect of intercourse. Even men are not aroused just by looking at someone. Their minds have to engage on penetrative sex. The vagina is not a sex organ. The stimulation from intercourse, cunnilingus and masturbation are all different for a woman. Only masturbation works. Women use fantasy when alone. Emma L : You have a different definition of orgasm as what I do. From penetrative sex, I have heightened arousal but there is no climatic end, just the feeling of being about to contain the arousal. I agree that its certainly not clockwork. Sometimes I can orgasm quickly and sometimes it takes a lot longer dependant on a variety of factors. JANE: Orgasm is primarily about what happens in the brain. You dont talk about the sexually explicit aspects of sex that turn you on. Men like fellatio because it is similar to intercourse for them. The vagina and the mouth are both warm and wet. But the clitoris does not penetrate a vagina or anything warm and wet. So theres nothing specially arousing about cunnilingus. Emma: I have been thinking about this a lot and I agree with you about the orgasm coming from the brain. So do you think it is possible to orgasm from just thoughts alone? Never done it but would be interesting if it was possible. JANE: Only some very young boys orgasm spontaneously. Orgasm is a specific erotic response. The brain responds positively to some aspect of eroticism which causes blood to flow to the penis/clitoris which then become responsive to stimulation. But the right kind of stimulation Emma: I can stop trying to think myself to an orgasm now lol xxx JANE: You have been misled. Most women never orgasm by any means. In any event orgasm is simply a consequence of being aroused. If you cant get aroused in your mind then you can forget about any physical stimulation. Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism