Daniela: Hi Jane, Can you advise me? I feel inhibited concerning sex practices, whether it is one night stands or serious relationships. Daniela (cont):My family never referred to sexual pleasure when I grew up. I think I have a mental block. Its possible that I missed the studies for fun. What if I do it wrong? How can I turn someone on? Daniela (cont): Am I convincing enough? Etc. I feel that these self doubts prevent me from having positive sexual experiences. I fear that I will not be interesting enough in bed for my partner because I am too reluctant to give it a go. Daniela (cont): Can you tell me, how I can work on that and to become free in my mind? Id be so grateful if you could advise me and I thank you already for a response in advance. JANE: Men are aroused very easily. An offer of intercourse is sufficient for a man to be acutely aroused. Women are sexually passive due to lack of arousal. JANE (cont): Given their arousal, men want to get to intercourse quickly. They dont need women to provide other turnons. So you dont need to do much to get a man excited. JANE (cont): If you want to pleasure a man, you should read some erotic novels. Women use behaviours to substitute for responsiveness. Women orgasm through masturbation alone. Daniela: What I meant is that I cannot talk about sex or a sexual relationship (without blushing) even though it should be natural. I was wondering why and hoped there might be a way to tackle this shyness. Thanks for your answer! JANE: In years of talking about sex on the web, most women refuse to comment. I have met with silence, defensiveness and rudeness for even mentioning sex. You are very brave to talk to me. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure