JANE: You cant expect her to be amenable in bed if you are inconsiderate outside the bedroom. Christos: It’s the opposite also! If she doesn’t like games and kinky stuff, I will not consider doing anything. Both should play that game. Both should have fun!!! JANE: There’s not really a ‘should’ about sexual pleasure. There are many more erotic stimuli and sexual activities that men enjoy. A woman makes conscious effort to pleasure a man in bed. A man needs to repay her by making effort outside the bedroom providing engaged (interesting & interested), affectionate companionship. Christos: I agree for one reason with you in that but for another … I cannot imagine that the pleasure will be only for me and not my sex partner. So basically, that makes us men more selfish. If I have sex with a woman, I would love her to feel the same pleasure that I feel ! Christos (cont): At the other I can be romantic but not because this is a MUST. I am and I will be because she is a romantic person. I don’t like people who pretend something that they are not. If you are romantic let me explore that with you and I will be romantic when I need to be! Christos (cont): But if you ask me, having sex and not giving pleasure also to my girlfriend, I will be not happy! Of course, first priority is a man. Because it’s more in our nature to be more like the male animals. But I repeat I am 100% happy if both can feel this pleasure. JANE : Men and women have different sexual and emotional responses. Women talk of emotional connection & touching. They never talk of eroticism or sexual pleasure. It depends what you mean by kink and games. Some women may initially be willing to try other activities, but intercourse satisfies men and gets the obligation over with. Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism