Peanut: I am a 45 yr. old woman who cant feel anything during sexual intercourse with my husband. We have been married for 9 years. Peanut (cont): It hasnt gotten any better, just worse. He complains that I dont want to have sex with him and I dont. Whats the point? I dont feel anything. Peanut (cont): Why are women not designed to feel pleasure from intercourse? Why should I let him get off when he doesnt get me off? Frustrated to the max. JANE: Its very difficult to accept that Nature doesnt actually care about female orgasm. At the end of the day, women get pregnant via other means. Its not really fair on men because sex is just not designed to cause female arousal. JANE (cont): We are responsible for our own arousal but it is much easier to achieve alone because of the focus required for fantasy. Sex is primarily about male pleasure. JANE (cont): But a woman can also enjoy giving pleasure. A variety of sex play, quickies, change of location & asking a man to provide some foreplay can all add to your sex life. JANE (cont): A woman definitely needs a good sense of humour & a lot of generosity. This very much depends on the state of the wider relationship. All relationships are about give & take. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure