Maria: Im 18 and find your site very interesting and informative. One of my friends was telling me how her boyfriend was fingering her down below when they had sex. She said it hurt a lot and so she was sure it must be the wrong thing to do. None of my friends had even heard of the clitoris. I had to tell them where it was! Jane: It is amazing that young women have so little knowledge of their own sexual anatomy. Unfortunately, young mens sex education comes from pornography. The clitoris is highly sensitive to touch and doesnt respond with a lover. Jane (cont): Your friend has evidently not discovered orgasm through masturbation yet. Her boyfriend means well but should focus on more general sensual (rather than genital) pleasuring. Sex should never be painful for anyone. Jane (cont): If it hurts then dont do it! Genital stimulation only leads to orgasm once a person is mentally aroused. During masturbation women use sexual fantasies but these dont work with a partner. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure