JANE: Why do women get bored by sex and become more reluctant lovers over time? Takouhie: According to research, lack of sexual interest in women is most often linked to a lack of emotional connection. This can be addressed through various forms of emotional hygiene, such as stress reducing conversations, rituals of connection and finding greater shared meaning in life. Takouhie (cont): Beyond that, there should be a willingness to accept influence from your partner. Men are weaker on that point. Feminism happened but without buyin from all men. So there’s residual muck that takes generations to work through if there is to be longterm success. That’s a short answer to a complicated problem that should not be generalized. Takouhie (cont): I haven’t mentioned history of abuse in either partner, which had a huge impact on sexual relations. Culture, sexual fluidity or rigidity, one partner being more curious than the other. So many things to consider and discuss. Needless to say, my answer is only meant as a starting point. JANE: Sexual relationships are easy in the early days because the novelty of sex for a man translates into a woman feeling loved and needed. But over decades together a man takes sex for granted and expects it almost as a male right. He is unaware of a woman’s need to feel appreciated and respected outside the bedroom. JANE (cont): A man assumes that a woman is satisfied, as he is, by the act of copulation itself. This is due to all the misinformation from therapists and sexologists who promote erotic fiction over research findings. Kinsey highlighted decades ago that women are much less interested in intercourse than men are. JANE (cont): This is natural since for a woman intercourse is merely an act of impregnation whereas for a man it is highly erotic. Women are sexually passive due to a lack of arousal and over time a man resents making all the effort during lovemaking. He looks for a more engaged partner even if he has to pay to find one. Takouhie : It sounds like you don’t believe in a psychological solution so much as biological determinism? JANE: I am looking for people to engage in a scientific discussion with an informed perspective based on facts, explanations and research findings. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure