JANE: I am asking why intercourse, that is assumed to provide so much pleasure to women, is so objectionable when a woman doesn’t want it with a stranger or even her partner. JANE (cont): I use a comparison of men & women’s very different sexual behaviours to illustrate how their sexualities differ. But frustratingly few people seem willing to acknowledge these differences and, even if they do, they cannot accept the consequent conclusions for responsiveness. Steven: I dont see how men and women can be considered to behave identically. It is my experience that they behave quite differently. I suspect most women engage in sex just to accommodate their partner and when they wish for children. Steven (cont): My conversations with women when discussing a sexless marriage, have often been met with the attitude: does it really matter?, which leaves me believing that while women are content to have a home & a partner (love and affection), there is little ongoing interest in a sexual relationship. JANE: ‘ the average female marries to establish a home, to establish a longtime affectional relationship with a single spouse, and to have children whose welfare may become the prime business of her life. Most males would admit that all of these are desirable aspects of a marriage, but it is probable that few males would marry if they did not anticipate that they would have an opportunity to have coitus regularly with their wives.’ Alfred Kinsey 1953 JANE (cont): Fighting wishful thinking & erotic fiction seems an impossible task, which I find hugely demoralising at times. I keep going because I enjoy the intellectual challenge of presenting a logical view of sexuality, because I know I am right (for the most part) and because I have nothing else meaningful to do with my life at the current time. JANE (cont): I would love to teach this subject but that is frankly unthinkable. There is no one willing to support such a project. The politics, like the ignorance, is unbelievable even for those who are considered educated. They don’t want any challenge whatsoever to their emotional beliefs. They would censor it if they could & they do effectively on social media. Steven: I have yet to meet a single woman who has sex simply because she enjoys it. I have seen women who use sex as a bargaining tool to get what they want. Of course, the sex stops when they have what they want. Equally Ive seen men who have done almost anything to get the sex they want, almost to the point of the cost or sacrifice being irrelevant. Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism