JANE: I have never had an orgasm with a lover despite exploring adventurous sex play for decades. Neither intercourse, cunnilingus nor masturbation work due to a lack of mental arousal. There are no female erotic turnons with a lover. Peter: I’m not quite sure how to respond to this. I do acknowledge (and have had direct experience) that the problem does exist, but unless the women I have known persistently, consistently and convincingly lied about what Peter (cont): they were experiencing then I don’t believe the problem is as widespread as you clearly do. As a result, I find myself disagreeing with most of your theories and conclusions. Given your resource is directed at making woman who are Odeprived feel better because they are not alone, Peter (cont): I don’t believe it would be terribly helpful if I give a substantially contrary viewpoint. I’m sure they get quite enough of that at home. (Peter had been married three times and each women had obtained very significant financial rewards from the relationship.) JANE: For many people, sex is an emotional subject. I am attempting to bring some objectivity by talking about the research findings and by presenting some logical analysis to highlight the contradictions and anomalies in how we assume women should orgasm with a lover. JANE (cont): Most people prefer their own emotional beliefs rather than any informed discussion. Of course they are perfectly entitled to do this. I am not on a crusade to convince everyone. I can only hope to help those who have questions. JANE (cont): The anecdotal evidence from porn and women who fake orgasm (or who are easily satisfied because they expect little from their sex life) are understandably confusing for men. I am pointing out that very few women are willing to explain these orgasms that their partners believe they are having. JANE (cont): Naturally if a couple is happy with what they have then they don’t have a problem. I am simply pointing out to anyone who does not have this experience (significant numbers of men and women do ask about female orgasm) that unrealistic expectations do not help anyone. JANE (cont): I suggest men broaden their sex life beyond intercourse. Men should focus on sensual pleasuring (forget about orgasm). More adventurous sex play depends on a womans willingness to explore. But this involves effort and communication. Many couples prefer to stick to the familiar intercoursetomaleorgasm. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure