Antnio : If women negotiate what they are going to do in bed, can we talk about an affective relationship in sensorial terms? Yes, because there is an affective relationship between two people who usually establish a relationship. Antnio (cont) : And there is an affective relationship because there is a sensory relationship. There is no contract that may exist later, but as a material, civil guarantee of that same relationship. Antnio (cont) :I believe that we cannot reduce an emotional relationship to a contractual relationship. Otherwise, what happens? We prostitute ourselves. We become the opposite of what we are, as sensory beings, transforming a relationship into the vice of dependence. JANE: Implicit within marriage is that a man is expected to support the family and a woman is expected to cooperate with her husband’s desire for regular intercourse. JANE (cont): It is men’s willingness to pay for sex that makes it transactional. Even with casual sex, men usually accept paying for dates or taxis. JANE (cont): Men’s much greater interest in sex is transparent and leads them to offering rewards to incentivise women to please them. Some women feel sexual power because of these rewards they obtain in exchange for sex. Melissa: I agree with Antnio. A couple, either gender, cannot reduce an emotional relationship to a contractual or transactional relationship. Melissa (cont): Otherwise, what happens? It places the stimulus for the sensual action on pause or on hold during the negotiation. Melissa (cont): Nothing like splashing cold water on it!!?? We become the opposite of what we are, as sensory beings, transforming a relationship into quid pro quo. JANE: I suggest that you are unwilling to admit the implicit obligations within human relationships. Its a question of what makes each sex feel loved and needed. JANE (cont): Love involves obtaining what we need emotionally from another person. Men need sex. Women hope for romantic love. So women must provide regular sex and men must provide support and companionship. JANE (cont): Without sex and without affectionate companionship there is no intimacy for either sex. But sex involves effort for a woman and communication involves effort for men. Whether you are willing to admit it or not. Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism