JANE:I ask women about sex & orgasm every day. I have done so for many years. Few ever comment. Typically women are negative. JANE (cont):They do not talk of enjoying eroticism or of sexual pleasure as men do. They don’t seem to understand the nature of sexual response. They talk of emotions. Shawna:I, personally, feel like its not about emotion. At the beginning of a relationship its very much about touch, emotion, Shawna (cont): the feeling of not knowing what happens next/what someone will do. That exciting newness wears off, and it takes more effort. Shawna (cont):I feel like part, of my personal challenge, has been sharing fantasies and having them either ignored or too time consuming. Shawna (cont):Men seem to want to get to the point. Especially after youve been together for a long time. Women just dont work that way. JANE:The first challenge is to appreciate that everything we think of as sexual knowledge, is in fact based on what we read or see in erotic fiction. JANE (cont):Very few people can accept the sex research findings because of the conflict with erotic fiction. This is why we have no sex education! Shawna:This is so much more complex than I realized. Youre absolutely on the right track! Shawna (cont):So many men want to understand, but how can they without women speaking out!?!?! Obviously were all different, but we can at least help put it out there. JANE:I also find that it is very common for people to assume that someone else will comment. JANE (cont):They assume that somewhere there exists a more liberated person. So far, I have found that most women refuse to ever comment on sex even tangentially. Shawna:I agree! Its a challenging topic to discuss or comment on. I commend you for tackling the monster!!!! Shawna (cont):I will try do better communicating & commenting. I absolutely LOVE that youre putting this content out!!!! Its SO important. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure