Musa: how to avoid masturbation if it becomes a toxic habit? JANE: Is it toxic? Some men are much more responsive than others. Kinsey talked of couples who had intercourse 3 times per day every day for years. Other men masturbate three times a day or more. The only negative about masturbation is the unrealistic expectations set by porn. Women are not nearly responsive as the porno stars! Musa: Agreed, porn sets some unrealistic expectations but what can a person who doesn’t have partner or spouse do in this case. What else can they do? JANE: You can pay or start dating. Women have to be romanced into bed. Or you have to pay them. Women want to be compensated for the sexual pleasure they offer a man. You need to be loving and supportive. You need to listen a lot. Musa: Ok, what if I avoid these things until marriage and also what to do when you are bad at romance? JANE: It is called being male…! Male orgasm triggers ejaculation of sperm, which is vital to reproductive function. There’s no escaping it. There is nothing wrong with masturbation. Just don’t expect your lover to be a porn star when you do find her. Musa: No way I wanna return back to masturbation but somehow I can’t avoid it JANE: As I have said: the choice is to seek out a woman or masturbate. Unless you go in for chastity and get aroused about never getting there. But that costs money too it seems Musa: I don’t know why young men are attracted to older women, housewives and married women. Does it have any correlation with the porn men watch? JANE: Everyone is aroused by different things. There is a wide variety. Not sure that all men are attracted to older women, married women (exclusively) or housewives. Many women are married and many are housewives. If you look at porn magazines, what arouses men can be truly bizarre. Musa: So it’s true that woman fake orgasm mostly? JANE: Women do not orgasm with a lover. So yes, they either fake, or mistake orgasm or just say nothing. Either way men assume that female orgasm has occurred. Musa: Are you saying that with authority or because it is true for you or is it true for some but not everyone? JANE: I use the facts & logic to explain sexuality. I also use the research findings plus my own research. If you know even one woman who can explain these orgasms men think women have, please ask her to contact me. So far, in over 10 years of asking women about orgasm, most refuse to comment. Musa: you are the best , Jane! Thanks. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure