JANE: Without contraception, few women would volunteer for unprotected intercourse. So why is men’s desire for intercourse used to define women’s sexuality? Suraj: Mens desire has historically been treated as the norm, so womens sexuality gets measured against a male template rather than on its own terms.Patriarchal cultures often prioritize male pleasure and lineage over womens health, consent, and reproductive risk.Unprotected intercourse exposes women to pregnancy and social sanctions far more than men, so their volunteering is constrained by unequal consequences. Suraj (cont):Lack of contraception historically limited womens ability to separate sexual desire from reproductive risk, unlike men.Medical, legal, and religious discourses have long pathologized womens desire unless it serves male or reproductive interests.A just framing of sexuality must start from womens own experiences, agency, and riskbenefit calculus, not from mens desires. JANE: Thanks for your realistic reply to my question! It is not often that anyone acknowledges the pressure on women to say that they want sex or that they enjoy sex. Intercourse is certainly a male pleasure. Women talk of upperbody lovemaking, kissing and caressing, rather than genital stimulation. I believe this is because women are not mentally aroused with a lover. JANE (cont): No one can name even one female erotic turnon. If there’s no mental arousal, there’s no orgasm. What does sexual desire mean? Men have a sex drive a significant biological urge to thrust and ejaculate into a vagina. But the term ‘sexual desire only explains women’s amenability to intercourse. JANE (cont): Millions of women worldwide have a problem with sexual desire. In other words, they don’t even want intercourse. I believe that this is natural because no woman wants to be impregnated every day of the week. There is an assumption that women should be willing to offer the intercourse that men want. When women are unwilling to do this, they are described as dysfunctional. This is wrong. JANE (cont): Kinsey concluded decades ago that women are not aroused in anticipation of intercourse and that intercourse frequencies correlate with male sex drive. In other words, intercourse frequencies have nothing to do with claims of female orgasm as Hite also concluded. These research findings have been very unpopular because men can’t accept that women are not aroused by intercourse as men are. JANE (cont): Women want to be attractive to men, so they dont ever complain. I have found few women who masturbate to orgasm. So women have no idea what arousal and orgasm feel like. Many researchers conclude that women mistake orgasm with emotional sensations with a lover. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure