Marion: Broadly speaking, I know that women don’t generally orgasm as much as men and certainly not every time. I usually do. But it can sometimes take a very long time. More explicitly, for me to orgasm, I need a sensitive and responsive partner who has determination.
Marion (cont): I use plenty of focus. I need to find that wisp of delight and follow it. But it’s tenuous and easily lost. That, combined with a lover who gets the right spot & some fantasy, will usually do the trick.
Marion (cont): Most of my orgasms are clitoral rather than vaginal though when I’ve had vaginal ones, they’ve been especially powerful. I think it’s illogical to assume that women don’t have vaginal orgasms just because many women fake a lot.
Marion (cont): As for the women who pretend, the ones who are in movies, you can hardly blame them. They need to eat too. Those pretending with their own husbands or partners however, are being terribly unfair to both partners.
Marion (cont): Maybe, guys don’t know how to do better (or are afraid to ask) because the advice they’ve had so far is that poking it in and out will get their women screaming after 10 minutes.
Marion (cont): Many women I imagine (I certainly include myself in this category) grew up with the expectation that point of sex was the male orgasm. Once you got there, you were all done.
Marion (cont): If you were lucky, you might have gotten off during sex or might have got a little tickle beforehand. But a woman has just as much right to enjoy herself as a man does, so she shouldn’t feel bad about ensuring that it happens.
Marion (cont): And boy, is it worth making the effort! Particularly if she plans to spend the rest of her life with him. The responsible solution to poor sex is to teach a partner what does the trick. She doesn’t have to be unkind about it.
Marion (cont): Gentle guiding, making the big noises when he does hit the spot. Asking him if she is doing it the way he likes. Opening up a dialogue where it’s not embarrassing to say a little to the left sweetie’.
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