Vivienne: Orgasm should not be seen as the goal of sex. Although I acknowledge that many women want to feel this as part of their sexual experience. Some women are quite happy with NOT having an orgasm.
Vivienne (cont): I agree that there is indeed still a mystery about exactly what turns women on. Some of this is probably the result of there being less interest in women’s sexuality and also the dominance of the male model of sexuality.
Vivienne (cont): It is also due, I believe, to the fact that any sexual behaviour, and especially women’s sexuality, is always the result of a complex interaction between biology, psychology and culture, and this simply isn’t easy to unravel. It is easier to suggest 25 factors that prevent women having an orgasm, than to describe what leads her to have one.
Vivienne (cont): While I agree that the term G-Spot is misleading and has been hyped out of all proportion, I believe it is wrong to say it is a myth in the sense you do, since erect clitoral tissue behind the upper vaginal wall creates a sensitivity that can be felt via the vaginal wall. Some women feel this, some don’t.
Vivienne (cont): Some feel it at some times and not others. Some believe they need to be touched in this area to orgasm, some don’t. Is this just an emotional orgasm’ as you suggest? Since my approach is that orgasms are a psychological, emotional and cultural outcome, then every orgasm can be seen as having an emotional component.
JANE: I believe women interpret sex in emotional terms in the context of a loving relationship. I do not believe in the G-spot any more than I believe in fairies. I have met no woman (who is not a therapist) who refers to the G-spot.
JANE (cont): I am trying to reconcile women’s experiences to the theory. These vaginal orgasms are not so amazing that women don’t continue to trade sex either for money or for a relationship. My point is that women do not have a sex drive. Orgasm is not nearly as important to women’s emotional well-being as it is to men’s.
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