Nadim: Good evening from Cairo, Egypt. I have a problem with my wife since the birth of our second child. She refrains from engaging in the act of love and argues. I do not know what to do. I hope to get an answer to my problem. JANE: There are a number of possibilities:1) During childbirth women often have tears and rips down below. Your wife should have an examination by a doctor if you are not able to do it for her. JANE (cont): 2) Do you use contraception? If not, your wife may not want any more children. She may want to avoid pregnancy especially if childbirth was traumatic for her. JANE (cont): 3) For many women sex is meaningless. Intercourse provides no sensation erotic or physical. Women respond to affectionate companionship. You need to invest in your friendship with your wife and include more kissing and caressing into your lovemaking. JANE (cont): Sex means nothing to a woman simply a means of having children. If your friendship has broken down it can help to talk to therapists if you have these in Egypt. Stop demanding sex for some months and talk to your wife. JANE (cont): It depends on her generosity and the general state of your relationship. Sex involves a massive investment of conscious effort for a woman. A man has to compensate a woman in other ways (outside sex). Hope this helps. Nadim: Thanks a lot! You have been a great help. She had a Caesarean section. She uses contraception. I talked to her but can’t convince her. I really can’t take it anymore. We Muslims do not have pleasure expat. in prayer and play with our children and make love with the wife the rest of the time at work. All I can do is masturbate and continue my life. Nadim: I am a romantic person. I want to tell you that I start romance talking two hours before I go home by talking on the phone or sms or romantic photos on the whats app even though I do not want to make love sometimes sending a love song. Nadim: But she always chokes me by cold answers or no replay at all. All I am thinking of the day that she married me to be a married women and just have the kids to be mom just like female spiders do. i am so depressed. You do not have to be sorry. Thanks for trying to help. JANE: Men make the mistake of assuming that sex is not much to ask of a woman. But it is a huge demand on her. She has zero interest and all the pleasure is enjoyed by the male. Bring some variety to sex play and give her some nonsexual treats. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all