JANE: Hi Trisha, You talk of mechanics but make no mention of mental arousal. Trisha: Physical stimulation works in a complementary and reciprocal way to mental stimulation through fantasy and visualizations. So if the physical arousal is doing it for me, then I can get carried away with my fantasy repertoire and that helps push me over the edge to orgasm. JANE: Perhaps you are unaware that the clitoral glans lacks the erectile tissue necessary to become tumescent and cause orgasm. Trisha: I disagree. It’s the focus of nerve endings, not the swelling of erectile tissue that allows for stimulation to orgasm. The tumescence in the penis and the clitoris indicates physical arousal, which is a precursor for orgasm. So, tumescence is important. JANE: We see women in pornography stimulating the glans as an erotic display that arouses men. Trisha: I 100% agree that the stimulation of the clitoral glans in porn is often performed more a show for visually stimulating the viewer. JANE: If you are not aroused in your mind, you will never orgasm. Trisha: I largely agree. One needs to be physically aroused as a precursor for orgasm and there is an element of mental arousal that is, in any normal circumstances, imperative. JANE: Women also tend to mistake orgasm with a lover, believing it to arise from emotional sensations. Trisha: I couldn’t agree more. JANE: Clearly most women never discover orgasm. The issue is not the anatomy involved but the lack of female erotic turnons. Trisha: I’d argue it’s very much both of those things. JANE: No one needs to promote the penis because male orgasm occurs regularly and reliably. Trisha: I 100% agree we as a culture find male arousal and orgasm obvious and thus it doesn’t need to be further promoted. JANE: These explanations are confused. The clitoral glans does not equate to the penis. Male orgasm is obvious because it occurs reliably. Nerve endings do not cause tumescence. Mental arousal causes the brain to direct blood to the genitals (tumescence). Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure