Denika: If a woman feels she needs to use lube in her relationship, I think she’s in the wrong relationship. I personally think females are passive if they are unsure of mutual attraction. But if passive completely forever that is a bad sign. JANE: If women were aroused, they would not wait for a man to provide the correct stimulation. The only proactive role for a woman is assisting with male orgasm by providing male turnons. Women confuse emotional sensations for orgasm with a lover. Denika: Some males do not even have to touch women to arouse them. But I’m not going to lie to myself that I don’t need to be extremely attracted to someone because I do. I tried to convince myself looks didn’t matter to me but they do. JANE: What stimulation do you need for orgasm? What erotic turnons cause you to become aroused? If women were having orgasms, they would know these basic facts. They are usually talking about emotional stimuli that have nothing to do with orgasm. Denika: I am not able to get aroused by someone I don’t trust. Essentially I am happier if he worships me & isn’t egotistic & arrogant. I am a bit dominant but not overly. I clash with an overly dominant man. JANE: I am asking about the genital anatomy & the stimulation technique involved in achieving orgasm. The stimulation that causes orgasm is applied instinctively as a result of our mental arousal. Denika: I notice from my ex husband, I need him to go away for a while so I’ll miss him. I can’t stand when a man is too needy/clingy & doesn’t have his own life. So far I have problems with men thinking I don’t like them because I disappear for a while. JANE: Liking someone has nothing to do with orgasm. These are emotional factors. Women look for affectionate companionship this is romance not orgasm. Denika: I haven’t met my soul mate yet & I don’t have casual sex so no fulfilling lover as of yet. I was not attracted enough to my ex husband. But blonde hair, brunette in a suit, or bald with tattoos is a good start but personality is important to me. JANE: Yes but personality, hair colour etc. are not erotic turnons that would cause arousal. These are romantic factors that cause a woman to be amenable to offering sex. They have nothing to do with achieving orgasm. Denika: Hygiene is really important for me. I am not able to be romantic with someone if their hygiene isn’t good. That’s been an issue for me in dumping males I’ve dated. Also I don’t like some of the grovelling males I attract naturally. JANE: Women talk of emotional factors with a lover, which have nothing to do with orgasm. Most women have no idea what is involved in sexual response. The mind responds to erotic stimuli causing tumescence of the genitals. Denika: Do you think it is possible some women don’t orgasm? Even with many years with the same partner I cannot say I believe I orgasmed. Some personality/physical traits are needed for me to even want sex. Denika (cont): I have yet to find someone I like enough. Hopefully, someday I’ll be able to explain how I get there but as of now, I honestly don’t know. Thanks for your research. I will try to read more of your work. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure