JANE:My husband doesnt seem to enjoy anything besides intercourse, and that very briefly, and I dont know what to do to change him. I have tried hard. Shere Hite Zelensky: Has she tried BJs? JANE:I think the point is that he does nothing that might pleasure a woman. Pleasuring a man is easy. But no one seems to have any ideas when it comes to women’s sexual pleasure. Zelensky:I guess that isnt completely transparent. I think its an assumption that you made and I didnt. But thats OK. JANE:I think it is clear that the woman does not want walltowall intercourse. She is complaining about the fact that her husband only wants intercourse. JANE (cont): She has tried to persuade him to pleasure her in other ways but he only wants intercourse.So not an assumption. Zelensky: I dont think it is clear at all. You are reading between the lines. Where in the quote does she say she has asked him to pleasure her in other ways? Zelensky (cont): If you take the quote literally it does not say what you say it does. You are seeing what you want to see, but it is only your connotation. I stand by my previous statements. JANE:She wants to change him. He only ever offers intercourse. She has tried … to change him from his constant focus on intercourse. Is English your mother tongue? JANE (cont): Otherwise perhaps you don’t want to understand. Many men simply cannot accept that intercourse is a male pleasure. Sex education relies on a certain level of objectivity an ability to see beyond what one wants to be true. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all