JANE: Womens sexuality includes providing male erotic turnons! Tori: You forget that men need to mould themselves into the kind of person a woman even wants to be with. Any woman can have all the sex she wants if she says yes. I no longer say yes to men who only want sex. Tori (cont): I haven’t had sex in two years because if this. I turn down two men a day either in person or on line approaches. If sex is all a man has to offer, get used to using your hand as that’s all you will get in the long run. JANE: I’m not sure of the point you are trying to make. Are you talking about what women are looking for? Can you be more explicit? Tori: I’m trying to say, men read this thinking all women want is sex. I’m trying to say that to get there, a lot of steps are being missed. But go ahead and get the hopes up of the 40 year old overweight guy who lives in his Mommies basement if you want. JANE: The point is that women are not aroused with a lover, so their only proactive role is that of providing male turnons. Of course many women are not willing to do this. They make no effort whatsoever as they assume sex is a male interest. I think most men know this… Tori: How hard is it to understand. Female arousal is far more than physical. JANE: Sorry what does that mean? I am asking people to explain the erotic turnons that arouse women. If women were aroused with a lover, they would obtain their own stimulation. They would not wait for a man to provide it. Tori: A man that has his shit together is what excites and arouses me. That’s what I am trying to say. No man can please a woman who is not willing to support her in every way. Until a man gets that right, he shouldnt even think about having sex with her! JANE: Men are very simple. They are looking for a woman who is amenable to offering regular intercourse. A man’s devotion is due to his enjoyment of his own arousal. Men are romantic at the start of relationships. But romance does not cause orgasm. JANE (cont): Orgasm relies on explicitly erotic stimuli. Men will only invest in a loving relationship with a woman if they think she will offer regular sex. You will wait a long time for sex if you dont understand this point. Tori: (silence) Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism