JANE:Is sexual arousal with a partner really so easy? Elena: Depends on the partner … Its all in the mind … JANE: Can you name any female erotic turnons that might explain how women get mentally aroused with a lover? JANE (cont): Women look for emotional rewards from their relationships, which depend on a lover being respectful, caring & companionable. These stimuli have nothing to do with how orgasm is achieved. JANE (cont): Erotic turnons are concepts or objects that cause arousal regardless of a relationship. So if a man is aroused by the female breast, he can be aroused by the breasts of any woman not just his partner. It also explains why a man can pay for sex. Elena: Sorry, I am busy with clinical work Will respond later! JANE: It is amazing that women are always busy or indisposed when it comes to explaining how they achieve the orgasms they claim to have. It’s easy to boast about fictitious orgasms. It’s much more difficult to provide evidence that a woman understands what is involved in sexual response. Elena: Jane, as a doctor and a female I know more than you can imagine. So dont be so confident in your statements please. Still quite busy with patients. Love to debate! JANE: I wonder why so many women initiate a discussion that they are not able to finish. The problem seems to be that they are used to having their vague assertions accepted without question. JANE (cont): As soon as I ask them to be explicit, they have nothing more to say. You are not alone. My experience over decades is that only men talk about female orgasm explicitly. I am challenging this erotic fiction. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure