Kristal: Feel free to ask me anything. Im not shy. JANE: Can you tell me about your sexual experiences, your relationships and experience of masturbation? What stimulation do you use to orgasm? What erotic turnons arouse you? Any other insights into your sexuality youd like to share? Kristal: I use various forms of erotic stimulation. My fantasies are related to the ways I wish my husband would be with me, the ways he could touch me and the closeness Id like to feel with him. During this time Im stimulating myself in some way Kristal (cont): and sometimes with digital and mechanical or physical sexually designed objects. On days where I feel the latter, sad, lonely, unwanted, those fantasies become like romances, where I find my soulmate and we live happily ever after. JANE: You are talking about romantic fantasies. Nothing wrong with those. You are very vague about what anatomy you are stimulating to reach orgasm. Your fantasies are filled with emotional content rather than erotic stimuli that might cause arousal. All that matters is that you are enjoying your sexuality. Kristal: Romantic fantasies in themselves can be erotic to the person whose nature finds them that way. Clitoral stimulation isnt the only way to achieve physical orgasm. Internal orgasm is quite possible, Ive experienced it. Kristal (cont): The sound of his voice is erotic. It is a blind idea to think that the orgasm is anything less than a simple erotic response to clitoral or vaginal stimulation. Its a catalyst for empowerment, stress relief, a sleep aid, a muscle relaxer. JANE: Again you have not been specific about the physical stimulation you use or the erotic turnons you use. These are specific aspects of eroticism (explicit details of genital activity) that cause arousal and orgasm. You cannot orgasm from the sound of a mans voice etc. These are purely emotional factors. JANE (cont): Reading between the lines, you seem to be talking about the vagina. The vagina is a reproductive organ. Women need a relationship because sex, by itself, is not emotionally rewarding (for most women most of the time). But there is no problem with what you enjoy. Its just not orgasm. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all