DLP: I dont fake orgasms. I never have. How will men ever learn to pleasure you, if you fake to make them think they are doing it right? JANE: What is involved in doing it right? Why is female arousal such a secret? Why dont women tell men what they want? Any ideas??? DLP: From my point of view, I think to get it right, you have to be open to the possibility that you may get it wrong. But it is also OK, if it does go wrong (that works both ways). Everyones body, I believe, responds in its own unique way so its good to explore together. DLP (cont): You need to get to know what feels good. There is more to getting it right though. Its important to be honest rather than critical, if something feels good. Then you need to make sure they know it, offer guidance and just be open and honest. DLP (cont): Mostly keep it fun. Its easier to tell a partner how to pleasure you if you know how to pleasure yourself. I find it easy as I know my body quite well these days. Thats not always been the case. It might be difficult to say what feels good if you dont know. DLP (cont): Im curious to know why you think female arousal is such a secret. It shouldnt be. It should be celebrated, embraced and enjoyed. It is wonderful! Being intimate with a lover is a beautiful thing and should be pleasurable for both. DLP (cont): I can only speculate reasons why some women may not say what they want. Ive had times when Ive not said anything so as not to offend my partner. I have felt that my own pleasure was not deserved and that it was shameful. Obviously, I was wrong to feel like that about it. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure