Inexperienced women explore various parts of their body before discovering orgasm but most women (84%) masturbate by stimulating the clitoris. Yet some women today will still buy G-spot wands and phallic vibrators. [i]
There are some sex experts who refer to clitoral stimulation as if it can be directly substituted for vaginal stimulation. They imply that intercourse can stimulate the internal clitoral organ through the walls of the vagina.
Frankly this does not happen. Even when a woman has a clitoral erection the general pubic area is engorged but the vagina itself is largely unaffected. There may be some slight increase in sensitivity during intercourse but not nearly enough to cause orgasm. Much like the G-spot theory the clitoral organ has been used to justify ‘vaginal orgasms’. It is a shame that ignorance and political conviction that ‘vaginal orgasms’ must be possible distort our understanding of women’s sexual anatomy and what is realistically achievable by even one woman (let alone millions in the population).
Men engage in intimate relationships because of their need for sexual activity with a lover (that is sometimes combined with a desire for affection). Men cannot accept that intercourse appeals to them because they are male. They think that all we have to do is wave some magic wand and overnight women will want intercourse as much as they do. This explains why the G-spot is promoted so universally despite its total ineffectiveness.
The Swiss researcher Andrea Burri talked to over 3,000 women. The study (the biggest of its kind to date) concluded that the G-spot as a well-defined area did not exist. The findings appeared in the Journal of Sexual Medicine (2010) yet they have had little impact compared with the success of the original theory. Burri concluded “I stumbled across the mysterious G-spot while looking at orgasm dysfunction,” she said. “I noticed there were only a handful of studies on the subject, which relied on very small sample sizes. I found it irresponsible to claim the existence of an entity that has never been proven, using in some cases a cohort of just 30 women worldwide.”
It’s easy to identify an area of the vagina and give it a name. It is much more difficult to prove that such an area is capable of producing an orgasm. The G-spot is simply an explanation for the orgasms some women think they have. Consequently it only works one way. This explains why it is utterly futile for a woman to use information about the G-spot to have an orgasm. It is easy enough to establish that the vagina is inert but mere scientific fact will never stop women suggesting that ‘vaginal orgasms’ exist.
[i] there are exceedingly few females who masturbate by inserting objects into the vagina, and most of them who do so are novices, exhibitionistic prostitutes, or women who have had such procedures recommended to them by male clinicians. (p576 Kinsey 1948)
Excerpt from Jane’s book Sexuality & Sexual Techniques (2015)