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How female orgasm is achieved

Arousal mechanisms are not unique to one lover

Mental turn-ons (both fantasies and fetishes) are abstract concepts and objects. They are not personalised or limited to one individual. So if a man finds the female breast to be an ‘object of desire’ then potentially he can be aroused by the breasts of any woman (not just those of his lover). Likewise if a…

Orgasm depends on a positive response to eroticism

Many women[i] (30% of Kinsey’s sample or about 1,800 women) openly acknowledge that they are never or rarely aroused. So it is unlikely that the rest of the female population is as sexually responsive as men are. You cannot teach someone how to produce an orgasmic response. We discover orgasm because we have the necessary…

The Quality Aspects of Orgasm Rely on Turn-Ons

Prostitutes, swingers and bluffers may talk nonchalantly about techniques for pleasuring a man. But women rarely refer to the turn-ons they use to achieve mental arousal with a lover.[i] This issue is vital to understanding why these orgasms are not reproducible by women who masturbate. Misconception #5: Because of the male experience, it is incorrectly…

Women’s responses do not need to be sociable

Surveys are inherently flawed where there is a bias in the acceptability of the responses. Frankly it is amazing that any woman ever admits to being non-orgasmic. The turn-on explains the bias. But given female masturbation is so rare why do so many (relatively) of these women volunteer? The answer is in the research findings…

Women’s use of fantasy makes orgasm easier alone

Men may be spontaneously aroused but most men most of the time need to do something to orgasm. So female orgasms cannot ‘just happen’. The emphasis on clitoral stimulation (as if it is the only factor in orgasm) is misleading because it ignores the bigger issue of erotic turn-ons.[i] Stimulation techniques are useless without accompanying…

Women do not masturbate as a substitute for intercourse

Male responsiveness gradually declines from adolescence onwards so that few men masturbate regularly by the age of 50. But at any age most men only masturbate if there is no chance of sexual activity with a lover. It is a subtle point but masturbation clearly fulfils quite different functions for men and women. Male masturbation…

Our Biological Motivation to Achieve Orgasm

There is a precedent for female masturbation in the animal world. Some female mammals do masturbate but since they do not ejaculate it is difficult to establish that female mammals stimulate themselves to orgasm. Misconception #4: Because of the male experience, it is incorrectly assumed that women have a ‘sex drive’ to achieve orgasm. Women…