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Women’s sexuality

The sexual responses of arousal and orgasm arise subconsciously. But sexual behaviours involve more conscious decisions: we choose how we will explore and enjoy our interaction with a lover.

The clitoris is the one and only female sex organ

To state the obvious: men have no organ equivalent to the vagina.[i] Male orgasm rewards men for the reproductive act of ejaculation but there is no biological justification for female orgasm (by any means). So it is much more likely that women’s orgasmic ability arises from the anatomy that women have evolved in common with…

Confusion over anatomy only arises with a male lover

Men’s orgasm techniques are consistent regardless of sexual orientation. Once he has responded to a turn-on, a man stimulates his penis whether he engages in masturbation, oral sex or intercourse. Only the anatomy of their lover dictates whether men engage in vaginal or anal intercourse. Women’s orgasm techniques are much less consistent. Notably behaviours differ…

Women’s sexuality is not limited by orgasm

Female orgasm is not easy and to suggest otherwise trivialises the effort women’s partners make to arouse them. Women ‘respond’ to please a lover.[i] This does not make them doormats. The world simply would not function if women were as egotistical as it is suggested they should be. Misconception #9: Contrary to the male experience,…

The sexual anatomy involved in female orgasm

Because she targeted female masturbation specifically, Shere Hite’s sample included even more women (82%) who masturbated (compared with Kinsey’s sample). Yet even though such women must be familiar with clitoral stimulation techniques when masturbating, around half of them[i] said the same techniques did not help them orgasm with a lover. Once again such an even…

The anatomy involved in heterosexual intercourse

Men always approach sex and orgasm with a focus on the penis: either through intercourse, oral or manual stimulation. There is no debate over the male anatomy involved in orgasm because men are easily aroused. Misconception #3: Because of the male experience, it is incorrectly assumed that orgasm is a vital aspect of female sexuality.…

Women have sex for emotional (not erotic) reasons

Sexual phenomena, such as arousal and orgasm, rely on explicitly adult themes. Anyone who is restricting these phenomena to a loving relationship[i] with one individual is confusing the sensual and emotional aspects of sexual activity with a lover and the true sexual release of orgasm. One of the difficulties in discussing women’s sexuality is the…

Women’s conscious use of sexual fantasy

Unless she masturbates to orgasm a woman is unlikely to appreciate that orgasm relies on psychological turn-ons. But equally if she has never had an orgasm then she has not explored her own sexual psychology sufficiently to discover what is arousing enough for her to achieve orgasm. It is the ‘whys and wherefores’ of sex…