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A modern interpretation of Kinsey’s work on male and female sexuality. Plus how couples can make their sex life even better by understanding men and women’s different sexual and emotional needs.

Heterosexual relationships involve mismatched sex drives

Men are naturally responsive. So no man should feel inadequate about ejaculating quickly. [i] Men accept the misconception that women might be able to orgasm through intercourse if stimulated long enough because they want to prolong their own enjoyment of intercourse. Any sense of inadequacy over male speeds to orgasm could be easily overcome if…

Some men expect women to make sex ‘exciting’ for them

Some women approach sex with romantic illusions. They expect a lover to be so aroused by their body that he ‘sweeps them off their feet’ with his sexual passion. They may not accept the need to offer any more turn-ons. [i] Women’s ‘responses’ with a lover are driven by social attitudes. For example, in the…

The G-spot explains the orgasms women think they have

Inexperienced women explore various parts of their body before discovering orgasm but most women (84%) masturbate by stimulating the clitoris. Yet some women today will still buy G-spot wands and phallic vibrators. [i] There are some sex experts who refer to clitoral stimulation as if it can be directly substituted for vaginal stimulation. They imply…

Masturbation and fantasy require a creative imagination

Masturbation is least common among less educated males (89%). More men who are high school educated (95%) and who are college educated (96%) are involved in masturbation for at least some period of their lives. There are two suggestions for why college boys masturbate more than less educated boys. The first is that college girls…

Talk of orgasm does not necessarily lead to more sex

Ironically (because only men’s responsiveness declines with age) women are often more sexually active when younger. Once a woman has children she is much less motivated by sex. Women are more confident about admitting that intercourse does not cause orgasm as they age, by acquiring status or wealth or through education. Women today say they…

Only some women think they orgasm through intercourse

When we talk about ‘consensual sex’ who exactly is consenting and what are they consenting to? Women may consent to intercourse [i] but consent is a long way off sexual pleasure and no proof that a woman has an orgasm. Heterosexual lovemaking, for the most part, relies on a man stimulating a woman. Genital stimulation…

Boys who are adolescent first have the highest sex drive

For practical purposes male adolescence is assumed to coincide with a boy’s first ejaculation. Boys who become adolescent first (before 12 years of age) often have the highest orgasm frequencies throughout their lives. [i] Statistics can be misleading. For example, men are taller than women on average but some women are taller than many men.…