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Sexuality & techniques

A modern interpretation of Kinsey’s work on male and female sexuality. Plus how couples can make their sex life even better by understanding men and women’s different sexual and emotional needs.

Female arousal is more deeply buried in the subconscious

Sexual phenomena (such as masturbation or gay sex) tend to be shocking and alien until we discover we enjoy them. [i] Similarly once we experience arousal, we see the positive (rather than the offensive) aspects of eroticism. Anyone who objects to eroticism does not understand the nature of arousal. There is a belief that we all…

Some men insist that women are pleasured by intercourse

Modern films such as ‘Jeune et Jolie’ (2013) glamorise prostitution to such an extent that we have the impression that all prostitutes are beautiful and classy young women offering a variety of sexual techniques. Sadly the run-of-the-mill prostitute does not provide ‘dinner with a show’. She feels no obligation to fake her own sexual pleasure…

Bringing variety of situation and technique to intercourse

Although intercourse provides little internal sensation, a woman feels some external pressure. When a man thrusts deeply [i] the base of his penis may thump or brush against her vulva (the clitoris and labia) and perineum (towards the anus). She may enjoy the eroticism of being dominated (from the whole body contact and his weight)…

Understanding what works: erotic versus emotional stimuli

If men were attracted to responsive women presumably they would appreciate a woman who could orgasm within say 5 seconds of being stimulated. In reality a man expects a woman to offer intercourse [i] for as long as he needs to ejaculate (no more no less). Conversely a woman has no control whatsoever over how…

The conscious and subconscious components of sexuality

Human sexuality has biological, emotional and intellectual components. The biological aspects are innate (we are born that way) and beyond our conscious control. Males of all species have a direct instinct to mate that females do not have. Females need to be persuaded to accept intercourse. In the film ‘Schindler’s List’ (1993) when a woman…

Relatively few women use a vibrator to masturbate

Sex toys are a useful addition to a couple’s sex play: to take the pressure off a man’s erection and to provide erotic stimulation that does not necessarily lead to orgasm. But many gimmicks bought in embarrassment and ignorance are never used. Lying on her back exposes the vulva and can be a good position…