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Female sexuality involves attracting male sexual attention

Any discussion of female sexuality is usually aimed at providing turn-ons for men rather than being a realistic description of how women truly orgasm. Those who are paid to promote sex succeed in confusing us all (even women) over what is truly possible. Women who talk about orgasm are either promoting their therapy business, their personal services or their sexual ego. Sadly we are easily duped by the supposed exploits of others!

Some women mislead men into believing that they are ‘satisfied’ either to end sex sooner or to satisfy a man’s need to feel that he has not been selfish. What strikes me as odd is that the only evidence men seek of female responsiveness is that women should be enthusiastic about intercourse. Surely if someone was truly responsive you would expect them to talk of their enjoyment of turn-ons? Surely they would masturbate occasionally?

Men’s sex drive means they naturally seek out women who are amenable to intercourse. A woman accepts that a man’s sexual admiration is based on the hope that she will be amenable to offering him regular intercourse.

Some women obtain an ego boost from exhibiting their sexuality. In an attempt to be more convincing they try to justify their orgasms (this was essentially what the G-spot was invented for). But isn’t it a wild coincidence that women who boast about orgasm are basically telling men exactly what they want to hear? Not only is female orgasm possible with a lover but it occurs within the two minute timeframe offered by intercourse!

Only a handful of women describe experiences that reflect popular beliefs about female sexuality. Most women never comment. Until millions of women support these stories, they remain in the realm of erotic fiction! Women’s inability to reconcile their amazing good luck with the experiences of millions of other women make it clear that they are seeking political goals rather than enjoying their own responses. Those who are truly responsive (men for example!) don’t promote their own orgasm. They discuss their enjoyment of erotic turn-ons such as their lover’s orgasm.

There are countless sources providing a porn-friendly, over-hyped view of female sexuality (that portray women as if they respond sexually just as men do – to the same physical stimulation, to the same psycho-logical turn-ons, within the same timeframes and with the same frequency as men do). My work is for liberated and worldly couples who understand that male and female sexuality are fundamentally very different. Sadly few people are capable of being honest with themselves let alone with a lover.

[i] Universally, human males have shown a considerable interest in unusual, rare, and sometimes fantastically impossible types of sexual activity. (p502 Kinsey 1953)

Excerpt from Jane’s book Sexuality & Sexual Techniques (2015)

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