Nosper.com is dedicated to discussing how couples today balance the demands of the modern family while making the most of their own opportunities to work and enjoy life:
- Women’s choice: as long as women have a special position in the family there will always be a gender gap.
- Men and family: how men can be more involved in caring for the family.
- Modern families: a fresh look at how working couples can balance employment and family life.
Nosper.com provides younger generations with information about the options and issues that will confront them if they decide to have children. The site www.wayswomenorgasm.org (also by Jane Thomas) is dedicated to the more specialised topic of how couples can get the most out a long-term sexual relationship by learning how women can enjoy their own sexual pleasure.
Our lives and expectations have changed substantially over the last century and are likely to continue to do so. Society today does not represent an ultimate ideal that will endure forever. When I was growing up women were fighting for the right to work. Now young women are worried that they may not have the opportunity to take time from work to care for a family. Life will always be a compromise between adult self-interest and the family environment. Who knows what the future will bring…?
Men and women are different
Many heterosexual men and women like the fact that the opposite sex is fundamentally different. Men are MEN – macho, sometimes a little insensitive, largely disinterested in how they look, social issues or children. Women are WOMEN – pretty, sometimes a little controlling, largely disinterested in getting dirty, doing battle or anything remotely technical.
We happily accept that men and women have different physical constraints (so men still fight and play sport separately from women) but the issue of emotional drives is a more sensitive topic. The fact is that even with similar opportunities in education and the workplace many women still find that over the longer term they prefer a life based around the family to a life based on achieving the personal status (and accompanying financial gain) that is so important to men.
“Both men and women seem to accept that gender differences will remain.” (p6 Bluffer’s Guide to Men)
When we generalise we need to be careful not to imply that everyone is completely categorised by their gender. Gender and the associated hormone drives need not always totally determine our individual priorities in life.